Epilogue (2 page)
Zachary
Rachel Violet
Ella
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EACH MONTH THE MOON WA XES AND WANES, GROWS FULL
and curves into itself and becomes again a sliver of light against the dark sky. Each month the moon moves across the night, larger and smaller, crescent and full, three quarters of the way, traveling back to the beginning. The tides come in with the gravitational pull of the moon and then they recede as it sends its rays down onto the swelling wa-ters even when human eyes are closed. So time is marked. The tide pirates the dunes away from the shore. The sand returns elsewhere, another village, another beach perhaps thousands of miles away on the shore of another continent.
Time is the widow’s friend, they say. But what they say is not always true. What I know is that time is moving forward while the face of the moon changes and changes back again and I am here suspended in time, like the f ly I saw in an amber stone, waiting for release.
This is a book about happiness regained—or not.
TEN O’CLOCK AT NIGHT, THERE I A M STANDING AT THE
front door of my apartment. I have a key but will not use it. Instead I turn the knob, because I have left the door unlocked. I left it unlocked because I wasn’t sure I could make the key work. For the thirty-nine years of our marriage my husband always pulled out his key and opened the door when we returned from an evening out. During the day I left the door unlocked. We had a doorman. I trusted my neighbors. I found keys (so subject to loss, so hard sometimes to turn, was it right or left that it should go?) a man’s responsibility. Was this a sexual reading of the act, a pun of the unconscious? Perhaps. But now, more significantly, it was a protest against the loss of something far more necessary than a key: my husband, H.
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It was not a beautiful bonzai. It was a scraggly dwarf of a few twigs that still held their green needles. Two of the branches were bare. Nearby there was a small stone and a tiny gray statue of a Chinese man, fishing. He wore a wide-brimmed peasant hat. My youngest daughter had given this plant to H. for Father’s Day two years ago. He had nursed it with Miracle-Gro, watered it daily. He shifted it around to catch the sunlight. He carried it with us to our beach home. He put fresh dirt at the four-inch porcelain Chinese man’s feet every few months. This bonzai had not died. It hadn’t thrived either. I wanted to throw it out. He protested. Don’t kill a living plant. Now brown needles fall from some of the branches. Today I throw it out. I know it’s still alive. It carries with it his affection. But no matter what I do, each day more needles fall. I do not have the gift. I do not love this stunted plant.
Grief is in two parts. The first is loss. The second is the remaking of life. This book is about the second. Although the division between the two parts is not a line, a wall or a chasm. Think of grief as a river that finally runs into the ocean where it is absorbed but not dissolved, pebbles, moss, fish, twigs from the smallest upland stream run with it and finally f loat in the salt sea from which life emerged.
I am now a single woman. There is no one at home to call when I am away. Self-pity is never useful. It tends to distort like a fun-house mirror. Nevertheless I indulge myself—heavy helpings of self-pity. Then I stop.
I am going out on a date. I have spoken to a stranger, a man, and arranged to meet him for lunch at a café a few blocks from my building. He sent me a letter in response to a personal advertisement my grown daughters placed for
me in the
New York Review of Books
. It said that I was a writer. It said that I was attractive. They think so or else they were lying. They said that I loved the ocean and books. That was true. I didn’t read the ad. I was embarrassed. But I was pleased they placed it. Why not? Who knows what waits for me out there among the throngs of divorced and wifeless hordes who might be willing to meet me over the hill? Once I had read in an Edmund Wilson essay of his dislike of women past menopause. He said they were like dried fruits, withered on the vine. The juice was gone. I understood what he meant. Although the words stabbed my heart even then, before I was forty.
What about your juice?
I had written in the margins of the book. But I knew that crones were female and old men were kings, stallions, and producers of heirs. Saul Bellow had a baby at the age of eighty-three. He didn’t live long enough after that for her to play Cordelia to his Lear.
The stranger had written a charming letter. He loved books. He loved music. He had wanted to be a writer but had become a public relations executive. He was divorced and he was sixty-nine years old. His letter was on gray stationery with a red border. I will call him P.J. I phoned. His voice was very hoarse and faint. He told me he had reached up to a shelf in his closet for a suitcase that was filled with old books and it had fallen on his throat. I thought about beloved books stored in a suitcase. I agreed to a Sunday lunch.
The stranger met me at a bistro around my corner. I saw him approach. He was short and thin and he had a white mustache. He had a gait that was something like a trot. Like a pony, he moved steadily toward me. We ate our salads
and talked. His hands were very veined and age-spotted. I didn’t mind, but he didn’t seem to be sixty-nine and a lie is like a broken step on the stairway to heaven. His voice was so weak that I had to lean into his space in order to hear his words. He told me he loved Proust and Stendhal and Thomas Mann. He had been divorced ten years. He didn’t want to tell me why. His hands shook and trembled. Did he have a disease or was he nervous? He never had any children. He wanted to retire to the Caribbean. He told me that customs had changed since I was a girl and asked me if I understood what was expected in today’s dating world. His hand was on my knee. His other hand was stroking my arm up and down as if it were a horse’s nose. We had known each other for exactly twenty-five minutes. How does a suitcase on a closet shelf fall on a throat? I tried to imagine it.
The stranger told me about his love of Melville. I am prone to like men who like Melville. He told me he had grown up poor in New Jersey and won a scholarship to Oberlin College. I like men who made themselves, men from families that spoke another language, that had worked hard so their children could have a better life. I moved my chair a little away from him to discourage all the stroking. He moved his chair after me. We talked about Billy Budd for a while. He asked me what I was working on. I told him. He seemed interested. He ordered dessert. I ordered another iced tea. His leg was shaking. I could feel it under the table, a steady tapping on the f loor.
As I sipped my iced tea with P.J. and talked about the soldiers in Iraq and discovered that his politics and mine were identical, I realized that the man sitting opposite me was not my husband but a strange man whose hand was
approaching my left breast. I pulled my chair back again. He pulled his closer.
I had looked at myself in the full-length mirror. I took in the scar on my left breast from the three operations for benign cysts that appeared over the years—each time with alarm, false alarm and days of renewed promise in the goodness of life. I saw that my body was soft and the skin from my upper arms hung in small ripples. I saw that my legs, once my pride and joy, had blue veins, at least on the back of my right calf. Like Father William, I was old and sagged where once I had been taut and firm. I noticed the folds under my chin. I noticed that my eyebrows had faded away. I saw that a face-lift might help. But I would never do that. It’s one thing to wash your face and quite another to cut it, or allow someone else to cut it. Each wrinkle, each line, each tilt of the eye belonged to me, contained the life I had led, the sadness of loss, the pleasure of birth, the wonder of the landscape, the pleasure of f lying in the clouds in a four-seater plane at sunset, the cold of the lake in Maine where I learned to dive. Many of my friends had (what they called) work done, pouches under the eyes removed, excess fat pulled off and tucked behind the ears. They did look younger than I but they also did not look quite like themselves. Their expressions seemed pulled across their face as if they were on strings.
I knew that my beatnik style of no-style had long ago gone out of style. I had mostly given that up when I married
H. I wore heels as high as my back would allow, believed in artifice, but only of the kind that caused no pain and would wash off in the shower. If I was old now, then so be it. Nature made it so and biology is not a personal enemy,
just a fact. I would not insult it, or defy it. I was a perfectly normal old woman and so it would stay.
After all, the men I might meet on my way would have many folds, little hair, muscles that didn’t ripple, legs that could go just so far, and eyes that might need cataract operations, as well as prostates that interfered with their sitting through a movie. They too might have had a skin cancer removed, leaving a barely visible dent on their nose just like mine. True enough most of them will feel entitled to a younger beauty, a woman who can glow in the dark. But that changes nothing. I am a rock worn by years of incoming and outgoing tides. There are snails and crabs and tiny bait fish, dark green moss, seaweed bubbles, pebbles, a few shells, perhaps a mermaid scale, or an abandoned beer bottle in my crevices. I have been salted, pickled, brined, so be it.
The stranger called for the check. He insisted on paying. I am used to a man doing that. That’s why I never order an expensive dish. My father told me it is a dead giveaway that a woman is a gold digger if she orders lobster or steak. The espresso cups rattled in their saucers as the man stood up; the uneaten biscotti the color of rock and sand sat on a plate. I stood up. Suddenly the man has his spider arms around me and there in the café, with people at every table, he grabs me to him, holds me close and rubs his hands up and down my spine, kisses my mouth so I can hardly breathe, and slips his hands down the front of my blouse. Then he stops. “Was that good for you?” he says. “It was good for me,” he adds. I laugh. This was not a nervous laugh. “Are you laughing at me?” he said. “I am,” I said, and that was that.
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Our daughters K. and B. have children of their own. One is a writer, one is a law professor. One is married, the other is getting divorced. These sisters are close. This means that a jungle of history lies between them, tying them together, binding them up. My stepdaughter J. is a psychoanalyst, a doctor, like her father, older than the others. But present in their lives, in my life: a necessity. Then there is E. She is the daughter from my first marriage, adopted by H. at the age of five. E. is a falling star, falling into drugs, falling into trouble, falling into AIDS, a brain wired for despair, but shining all the way, sparkling even, love glowing, on occasion dazzling. She writes too. This description applies as well to her biological father, perhaps not the loving part. When H. first met my daughter he knew she was a little girl with mile-wide rips in the soul. After a few months of our being with each other H. told me he hoped he could save her, that together we could save her. We didn’t, but we tried mightily.
K. and B. took a taxi together from Brooklyn, where they live a half a block apart from each other, the night my husband died. They appeared in the emergency room and wept. One took my husband’s Timex watch off his wrist and put it on her own. One stayed with me in my bed when we finally returned to the apartment in the early hours of the morning. J. spoke to the interns and doctors. She was the color of slate. Dark shadows appeared under her eyes but she seemed to know what to do. She (or was it her husband?) arranged for the funeral home to come to the hospital and retrieve the body. I was able to understand everything but unable to speak.
E. does not come to the funeral. She lives in Minne-apolis. She has no photo identification, so she cannot get on the airplane. She has lost the copy of her birth certificate I had sent. She has misplaced her passport. She has no driver’s license. She wants to come but can’t. I know she is grieving in her own grieving way. I know how she and H. were together. I know how he cried when he thought she might die: breath pulled in, choked off, sounds, deep in his throat.